Find the kernel of good
It is very easy to reduce people in the workplace down to the problems that they cause us. In fact, even the good work they are doing can be ignored if we feel sufficiently put out by a particular person or event.
However, there is one thing that can help to combat this. It is to list all of the good qualities that a person provides, such as kindness, organization, punctuality, etc. Although keeping things appropriate to the work environment is essential here.
In fact, if we consciously make an effort not to let our negative internal monologue about this person take over, we can make several improvements. Both to the way we interact with them, and the relationship as a whole.
After all, how would you feel if someone was only relating to you in terms of the negative things they perceive about you? Hostile, demotivated, and anxious, probably. Something that shows just how much the way to see and relate to people can make all the difference to relationships.
Boost our own emotional intelligence
Another smart way that we can consciously attend to improving relationships in the workplace is developed our own emotional intelligence. That is our ability to recognise and regulate our own emotions, empathise, and set boundaries with others.
Sadly, many people think that emotional intelligence is a capability that you are either born with or not. This being an issue that can lead to a huge and unnecessary deficit in constructive relationships in the workplace.
Of course, the truth of the matter is that anyone can learn to be more emotionally intelligent and use this to build stronger, healthier relationships in the workplace. In fact, some providers even offer courses on this subject that you can attend to grow these skills.
Invest time outside of the office
Now, I know that we all have busy lives, and spending more time with the people we work with, especially if we don't see eye to eye, can be the last thing we want to do. However, sometimes engaging with people in a space that is not totally dedicated to working can be very constructive.
In fact, you will find that many people are very different outside of the workplace, especially in social situations such as when playing team sports or on a night out. Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean that you will instantly forge a lifelong bond with them there either. However, taking the time to see them as a whole person can be instrumental in consciously building a more constructive relationship when you are back in the workplace.