Losing someone that you love is never something that can be helped by words alone. Your emotional journey is going to be shaped, in large part, by the relationship you had with that person. However, for those initial steps, many people have a similar start to their journey and here are a few tips that can help with at least some of those steps.
Don’t worry about grieving the wrong way
If you feel a need to cry, to talk it out, or to feel an anger, you should let yourself feel that way instead of trying to stop yourself from grieving. Similarly, if you feel numb, off-balance, or even surprisingly “normal” for a while, don’t shame yourself. Everyone grieves in different ways. Factors such as shock can delay and change how we react, and for some of us, grief is a very, very gradual journey without very many noticeable signs of it.
Get the essentials organised
One of the more surprising feelings of dealing with the loss of a loved one is the sense of overwhelming that comes with the obligations or responsibilities you might feel pressured to fulfil. Start looking at funeral directors near you who can help guide you step-by-step through the process, taking some of that pressure off. Don’t be afraid to ask family members or friends with help with some of the practical stuff if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
Ensure your self-care
From dealing with the practicalities of the funeral to the emotional toll that a loss can take on us, it can be easy for our focus to be on anything but ourselves. However, caring for yourself is important. Take care of your physical needs, make sure you eat, sleep, and remember to take care of little things such as brushing your teeth, showering, and exercising. Your self-care will naturally slip away a little during the grieving process, but not making an effort to maintain it can lead to deeper depressive episodes.
Speak up if you need to
Support comes in many forms, and some people will naturally rally around you. Otherwise, however, don’t be afraid to let people know how to be more supportive. If they’re doing something that isn’t helping, you can let them know, for instance, and tell them what could be more helpful, instead.
Endeavour to become more conscious
When we lose someone, our thoughts will often eventually go to our own lives and the relationships that we still have the chance to enjoy. If you feel like you have been taking life for granted, then you should look at the beginner’s guide to conscious living. Becoming more conscious of the world around you, the people in your life, and how your actions and words affect them can help you get a lot more fulfilment of what is still here.
Looking at resources on how to cope with loss can be helpful, but you shouldn’t underestimate the need to communicate your own thoughts and feelings, too. If you need help, do not be afraid to ask for it.